Luke 6:37
“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; Why are we so quick to judge other people by the way they look, their appearance, what they wear their houses, their cars, their status in the community. How much they contribute to schools or any place it might be. Kids in schools think they are better than others as they were brand clothes and others were clothes from Pep, Ackermans, or other local shops. Why people then think they are better than other people, when you can loose everything in a blink of an eye. Why is it that people are so quick to judge when they don't know what the other persons circumstances is. There is a staying "Walk two miles in their shoes, then you will understand what they going threw. I see daily on social media how people judge other people, by something they write or some one looking for a job or some one creating something to sell and make money, you always get these people that have tons of ugly comments about it. I say if you do not have anything good to say about people do not say anything at all. Who gives us as people the right to judge or criticised, others if judgement do not belong to us but only to God.
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ANGEREphesians 4:31
"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice; Anger can we control it or not? Yes we can. No we can't we just angry people, thinks everyone owes us something. We are just peony humans that get angry if we don't get our way. We get angry if things don't go our way, we get angry when someone is a better achiever than what we are. We get angry when racist comments get thrown our way, we get angry at friends and family if they do something wrong. Sometimes we just get angry at life it self as we feel it is our right to be angry, it is our right to be bitter or to be evil. Anger is a ugly thing it makes us ugly, we get so consumed by anger that we start to hate and that hate sometimes turns into ugly things - jealousy of others, murder, stealing, vandalism, listen to wrong people who fires it all on. I don't say don't get angry, it is natural. If someone have a argument with you and you are angered by that person could be in your home, your workplace, out in the public. remember the bible say forgive seventy times seven. Be the better person go and apologize first even when you were not wrong, that person goes on with their lives and here you are still angered by something that happened. Don't be angry and steal, don't vandalized that do not belong to your, the next generations will also love to live here, a place that is not full of hate or anger but full of peace, love and joy. A place that they can be proud of. Don't teach the young generation wrong, teach them what is right we cant just take things that we think belongs to us, no everything in the world belongs to God, He just gave the people the knowledge to create all the things. BULLIES Why do some kids just terrorize their friends or other kids?
What is behind it? Is it just a face they going through? I would say it is a form of abuse, verbally, mentally and physically, it leaves a scar on kids especially if they get bullied by parents, siblings or any family member or friends. they assume it is ok to hurt other people as deep inside they are hurting. I don't know if any one of you ever watched the Breakfast Club (it is about this teenagers that got detention and the teacher looking after them is a real pain. There is a boy that don't have much as he get abused at home, a wrestler, a science and math boffin, a girl that don't have any thing else to do and she goes to school to sit detention and she steals people's things and the last girl has everything she is famous, are rich. As the story unfolds they learn about each others lives. How strangers from different background became friends.) but it is a must see. Some experts claim that it is due to children don't like it if other children think different than them, they want to force the kids to be just like them and if they don't they bully them. or it is part of a child's culture, discipline starts at home some kids get over discipline others don't have discipline at all. Kids learn from their parents. if a parent is abusive and always scream and shout and bad mouth people changes are that the kid will be like that as he or she doesn't know of any better, that's the way they grow up in that environment. Another one is if the parents are drunks or the mom and dad are divorce (kids always think that that is their fault.). The parents fight when they are drunk or are abusive against each other or sometimes even towards the children and they get smack for no reason. The divorce mom or dad sometimes bring home someone to give them some entertainment. They say that parents that are unhappy, unemployed, divorce, or unhappily married fall in the group of bullying others but I tend to disagree as sometimes it is the rich kids that bully others as they don't get sufficient love at home, love is given to them by buying them gifts. The only thing that all children want in live is to be loved, to be respected, to be heard, someone to talk to about things that bother them, they want to tell their parents about the good and the bad days. TYPES OF BULLIES: The abusive bully The ones that bump other kids around and take their stuff, to look cool by their friends. The verbal bully The ones that threating, make fun of or scorn others. To chase someone out of a group or just ignore them, girls are very famous for those ones. EVERY SITUATION HAVE TWO SIDES: Sometimes when kids go for counselling at school or with the parents at home and they talked about been bullied, it comes out the kid that has been bullied is actually the bully and they lie because they don't want to get into trouble. SCHOOLS DONT CARE: We had a few situations in our country were kids get bullied by other kids, sometimes so bad that they actually take videos and place it on social media, or you tell your friend something in private and they put it on social media, When parents approach the headmaster they don't know anything about it or was not informed. Is there not suppose to be teacher supervision on break times , cant our kids trust the teachers today or even their own friends. There were lots of cases already that when the parents go to the school to speak to the teachers or headmaster your kids get expelled and the bullies stay in school were they just bully more kids and then the kids that get bullied commit suicide . ACTION PLAN: Teach your child to have value, teach your kid to be loved, teach child to have respect for him/herself and for others. Teach them the empty chair technique were he pretend the bully sits in the chair and he tells him exactly how he feels about him that gets bullied by him/her, ask why do you bully others, do you love hurting other people. Block the negative energy out, learn to see the positive things. I always tell my kids the only reason why people bully each other as because they are jealous they cant be like you. Be strong, kids that can defend them selves believe that they can overcome their fears, don't use your fists unless that is the last resort. Speak to someone you can trust about you or other kids that get bullied. Ask God to help you stand up against this bullies and give you the courage to face them. Remember you are loved by God, doesn't matter who you are, or were you come from. Lastly there is a song that Nedine Blom sings: "Do you know that Jesus loves you" (Afrikaans - "Weet jy dat Jesus jou liefhet." You can go search for it on YouTube. |
AuthorHallo my name is Thessa I am the mother of three beautiful teenagers. I started this blog as I see so many children and people suffers everyday. School, home, the outside world. Archives
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